I hope that one day I am so desperate to be famous that I will literally be a prop on some lame TV show where I’ll wear the same dress as all the other women and will only be on the show to be looked at and to open up a case. I hope that my intelligence will be so undermined and I will let it that I will be unaware of my degradation. I hope that I forfeit all of my other assets (like, a personality, for example) so I can only be given attention because I wear a dress that is so revealing I can’t even bend down to pick something up.
I hope that I will be silenced into being a doll, a mere plaything for the entertainment industry to reduce, reuse, recycle. I hope that I become so shallow that my self-worth will actually heighten because I’ve been chosen to stand up on a stage, look like every other woman around me, and open up a suitcase. I hope that I can choose a profession and lifestyle that requires me to have no talent, no personality, and no intelligence.
I also hope that my fellow females will forgive me for disregarding what strong, amazing, powerful, smart women in history have done for me. I sincerely hope that I can forgive myself for letting a misogynistic industry silence me into becoming a prop.
Deal or no deal?
NO DEAL.
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Jamie. Jamie. Jamie. I hope this is not you judging a book by its cover. Don’t assume the role of others without even knowing. Use facts, not observation… perception can be very misleading and can cause one to faulter oh so badly. Please explain this one.
Hm… I don’t know if I would call this judging, but I guess it may seem like that. I’m merely talking about the show Deal or No Deal… and from what I see, which is all they give me on that show, this is my reality. What other facts could I need? I see these women up there not being given a voice and all they do is stand there. I’m sure most of them are intelligent, but I doubt they are using their intelligence when becoming a prop.
I guess I could accept the choices people make, but this choice of theirs is affecting me and other women. They are saying it is okay for women to be seen as props.
Maybe this entry is harsh, but I’m not really interested in being PC. I’m interested in the truth and to me this one doesn’t need much more explanation. I only know what that show gives me and I’m only talking about that show, nothing less and nothing more.
i think this may be our first disagreement. I said judging due to the fact that this is your opinion about a specific case, which fits to your description and observation you’ve stated perfectly. It may be viewed as a negative word but nonetheless, just a word. I know you to always stand up for women’s rights and equality, but instead of viewing this situation as something where they possibly could rise above, you’ve limited them and labeled them. I do agree that there are women out there who don’t take a stand to become equal with this world. But lets face the facts here… that will never happen. Accept those who choose to take certain directions with their paths in life; fighting and going against those who chose these jobs for themselves doesn’t make you stronger. Look for ways that you can control and make a difference. Judging and stating what you believe to be true are not going to get you anywhere in life, but seemingly bitter. And who knows, maybe this is one part of their life that we can obviously observe…. and the other being…. an environmentalist…. we really, just don’t know.
This is definitely our first disagreement. What I think is interesting (and what I’ll probably blog about on its own topic at another time) is that this blog entry is not out of the ordinary for me. It’s just spoken with a different voice and directed at a different group of people. Had I written this blog saying, “Man, the MEN in this entertainment industry are so lame. They put these women on Deal or No Deal wearing absolutely nothing just to get higher ratings. Damn the patriarchy! Suck it entertainment industry, SUCK IT”, I feel like there would have been no disagreement. However, because I put the responsibility on women, it’s this whole, “Wait, women have the right to choose! Respect their decision… you’re a feminist… don’t you love all women and their choices?” Well, no I don’t respect every woman’s choice because choosing to be some prop DOESN’T help anyone and, in fact, pushes back the movement all together.
I feel that this blog is my voice… and I want to use it to wake people up to what’s going on around us, especially the things that we don’t even notice. I pointed out to my mom how degrading Deal or No Deal was last night and she was perplexed, no idea whatsoever that what the women were doing was ridiculous. Later, we were watching another show and she commented at how classy and beautiful it was to see a singer wearing CLOTHES. She started to notice… she started to open her eyes. I take that as a cue to USE MY VOICE. I can sit here and say, “WOMEN, do what you will! I shall accept every choice you make, even if you are willingly objectifying yourself, because you know what? It’s the men in this world that suck… they are making you into objects.” We’re not victims and neither are the women who put themselves into positions like a job on Deal or No Deal.
How, as women, do we expect to NOT be objectified if we have plenty of women just waiting to be so? There wouldn’t be these roles on television if there was no one to fill them; they’d fizz out, but instead there are women willing to be a prop. I don’t understand how I couldn’t speak out against this.
It’s just interesting to me that this blog entry seems so out of the ordinary when I routinely write about issues like these, but instead of calling out women to take responsibility, it’s usually about how men are oppressing women. There comes a time when women have to take a stand and I don’t agree with your statement about facing the facts, because we’ll never be equal. I don’t settle for that and I don’t think anyone else should either… especially these deal or no deal women.